How do you react when you're just not okay with something, but the only advice you're getting is to "fake it"? I'm just unable to be myself around couples - usually one that involves a close friend - that I don't agree with. The "disagreement" can stem from a number of things: maybe the relationship started under immoral circumstances like infidelity on the part of one or both parties, or maybe I've heard very bad things about the other girl or guy, or maybe I just don't think the relationship is at a healthy place. I can disapprove of the person(s), or I can disapprove of the situation, or I can disapprove of both. It's all the same to me.

I see other people openly praise these couples, exclaim things like "you guys are so cute together!" left and right, when I know they feel the same way I do. I envy them because I cannot for the life of me feign any sort of happiness in these situations. My disapproval seems all-consuming. It kills me because I know my friends are happy, and I want to be happy for them....SO much. Sometimes I'll just lie awake at night asking myself what the hell my problem is, that I can't put aside my own thoughts just to be happy for my own friends. But I just can't get it out of my head because I think highly of most of these people, and constantly can't get over that they are settling and can "do better" or that they're risking getting very hurt if/when it ends. I guess it frustrates me when people can't see what I see, even though I know it's not my place to make decisions on their part.

Looking back, I'm inclined to think I've always been this way. But recently there's been a surge due to the situations of the people around me and it's been very hard (as I've been dealing with some personal drama as well). It sucks because I'm evidently not mature enough to just "be okay" with it all and I have very, very elementary coping mechanisms when it comes to these things. I hope people understand.